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December 29, 2013


Is there a pill for this? Maybe, hopefully, one of the pills I am already on. I listen to Tom Brady’s interview. Give 100% effort. How many times have I heard that phrase? It is total lip service from, like, 99% of the population. Not Tom Brady. I finally read a sports illustrated without sending it directly to the recycling. It was the Peyton Manning sportsman of the year issue. That man, the quarterback of one of my team’s rivals, is incredible. Forget the football and the injury and the Read more […]

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December 27, 2013


Headed to Michigan, again. Remembering my remembering of other trips. This time we get to fly. So that is an improvement. I will not be alone again for 5 days. My kids, Steve’s family reunion with 50 cousins and 150 second cousins. Crowded drives and more crowded houses. His siblings, their babies. Like everything else this is good and bad. When you read this I will be bundling up for an outdoor hockey tournament. I hope you are warm inside. I might just have to get back on facebook Read more […]

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December 26, 2013

Unwritten rules

Some of my favorite pastimes take me out of the moment. I pick a zip code, put it into the zillow app and imagine a life some other place. With citrus trees, on a small farm, in an urban apartment. As enjoyable as this is, it is the antithesis of mindfulness and mediation. I could let it go. Maybe I even should let it go. Right after I let go the use of the word should. Preparing to leave for Michigan I try to stay in the moment of packing. Enjoying the folding rather than racing through it, patting Read more […]

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December 25, 2013

Shadows of you

I haven’t thought of him in years. Maybe decades. He used to be my constant internal companion. When my parents took me to China, now a story of adventure, then a time of aching loneliness, he was with me every day. I remember the first time we met. He was a shadow in his mother’s kitchen. We entered through the side door, the family door and it smelled like someone else’s dinner. Warm, spicy and not the smell of home. The room was dim, and he was tall and dark in the corner. His sister, my Read more […]

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December 20, 2013

Quick quiz

Which element is most egregious…(overheard at a virtual conference) 1. Using nouns as verbs…when an actual verb exists. “Let’s see if we can find a way to solution this before January.” 2. Overestimating their ability to flex the space time continuum. “We have decided as an organization not to change the way we have done things in the past.” 3. Solutioning problems of their own making. Entire conference is about competing IBM technologies to allow virtual conferencing. This Solutioning Read more […]

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December 18, 2013

Guide to marrying up (without using the internet.)

Steve is hot, has a job that he likes/loves depending on the month, does 100% of our cooking, 75% of our housework, is incredible with our kids, makes me laugh, brings me tea in bed, and drives me around when I ask him to. In addition to my charm, excellent parenting philosophy, and decidedly good dowry I have a few flaws. I am obese, grow strange things off of my back, am super lazy, and require a fair amount of attention, wait I mean space, no I meant attention, actually space (and the ability Read more […]

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December 13, 2013

Twist tied

I imagined twist ties, Velcro, double stick tape. At some point during the job Steve talked about bringing in the chainsaw. For 6 years across three homes the computer cords have driven me crazy. I’ve asked him to tape them up, wondered why the engineer who packs the car”just so” for a 45 minute car ride can leave these danglers like so many steamers from New Year’s Eve 1999. We have what I imagined to be a minimalist set up. Clean looking Mac on a Paul McCobb table from the 1960s. Slowly Read more […]

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December 6, 2013

Frozen Caveman TV prescription.

  I had dinner with a friend last night. The rare, one on one, for no reason at all, bread breaking. Neither of us were at our most animated but we covered lots of ground. I expected to leave and write a post about motivation, the difference between translation and interpretation, and how running is absolutely not like flying. Instead I find myself coming back again and again to her throw away comment that she hadn’t watched any TV in 20 years. None. For the past few years she has begun Read more […]

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December 5, 2013

Can’t get enough of Shelburbia?

Come and visit. Rent our house and Steve will stock the fridge with local beer. Not only will you have an excellent time, but we will feel less foolish for moving without selling our last home. Its a win-win. Who doesn’t like a win-win? Read more […]

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November 30, 2013


Everything itches. And before you start…no its not lice, or anything else lice-like. I’m assuming its not the sometimes fatal rash side effects of my new mood stabilizer. That really would be the ultimate mood stabilizer though…I mean she was feeling pretty bad but look at her now…I can do anything and she doesn’t get upset. (Imagine picture of dead body being poked by vintage yard stick.) The night of gratitude has come and gone. Family and friends and food. Lara and I created an amazing Read more […]

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