#amnotwriting what about you?

This is a rant for my blogging buddies. The rest of you might want to tune back in when I am writing about bras, or kids, or drugs.

I made myself a desk.

First Steve and I took everything out of the office. The office is a 10×10 room that is clown car full of games and homework and beer posters and clay figures and dead plants. It is home to 6 mismatched chairs and all of the electronics that are somewhere between life and death. (Much closer to death). It has bank statements and tax returns and beer advocate magazines and that office toy with the clicking balls. (Wow does that sound so wrong.) Plus the pencils and sharpies and dead pens. So many of those. For one hour it had none of those things and instead it looked all of its 100 square feet. It was fantastic. So then we returned just the stuff we needed and tried not to look at the disaster we made of our dining room table.

We achieved the impossible. In a corner I have now have a desk.

So obviously I can no longer write.

I am sitting here and trying. This is my fourth attempt at a post this morning. I tried to explore Oliver’s question of whether it is good to be humble but I got tangled into whether imaging that you can determine humility immediately bands you as un-humble. I also tried to write about my toes but those were even more boring than the navel I gaze into so regularly in this blog. Then I wanted to write about having sex when you don’t want to. But I didn’t want to. So here I am writing about not writing.

In the opposing corner of the office Steve works at his standing desk. His rapid keystrokes are taunting me. Clack click clack is the sound of stuff getting done. It is not even as passive as that tense. Steve himself is getting stuff done. Every once in a while he slurps his coffee and gives a sigh of satisfaction. Much more frequently he gives a gigantic sniff. How have I never noticed how much my husband sniffs? So much. So many sniffs. I’m amazed that he still has a nose on his face given the sniffing. It might sound as though I am exaggerating but those of you who write, or try to write know what I mean. Sniffing is the worst. Or whatever your version of sniffing is.

However writing is non negotiable so I pause on the blog and open up a new word doc. Not actually word but Pages because I am all apple but using the word Word seems more inclusive. But less productive. A word is not so impressive. A page is something. But a page comes about one word at a time.

See that? See above right there? That is the sort of shit that is in my word doc. Or Pages. AAAAAARGH.

Usually I start my morning checking in on my “writers” list on twitter. In the past I have enjoyed reading other blogs and make a point to comment and share. Yet recently I have slipped away from social media because it is full of links to articles and posts and books. I try to feel pure happiness for my online friends but instead other people’s success only highlights my lack of words. And pages. Twitter is filled with the hashtag #amwriting. I feel double judgement when I see that hashtag. 1. You #arenotwriting when you are tweeting. 2. I #amnotwriting while I am reading your tweet. Instead I #amjudging.

Oh my god. I thought Steve’s sniffing was bad but know he is yell-talking about some sort of super secret chip. Which is not made of potato. I’m feeling a bit pessimistic about my desk/corner/writing set up. “They need to have versions of these modules that can support leaded columns like the old ceramic parts.” I am trying not to listen but his volume is too loud. Its like when I drive the kids in the car with friends and they can’t keep themselves from yelling. There have been times when I reach for the volume on the dash board to try to turn them down. It doesn’t work.

So I #amjudging my work and lack thereof, Steve’s work, and my friends’ success.

I will say this.

At least I am getting a lot more done than these two.


I might have to get myself some of these. Sniff.

What about you? Are you writing?



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Anna Palmer

Anna Rosenblum Palmer is a freelance writer based in Denver, CO. She writes about sex, parenting, cat pee, bi-polar disorder and the NFL; all things inextricably intertwined with her mental health. In her free time she teaches her boys creative swear words, seeks the last missing puzzle piece and thinks deeply about how she is not exercising. Her writing can be found on Babble, Parent.co, Great Moments in Parenting, Ravishly, Good Men Project, Sammiches and Psych Meds, Playpen, Crazy Good Parent, and YourTango. She also does a fair amount of navel gazing on her own blog at annarosenblumpalmer.com.

10 thoughts on “#amnotwriting what about you?”

  1. Must be going around. I’ve been force writing for the past 2 months now. It’s exactly as you describe it. You slip once, fall off the grid, feel guilty, and struggle to get back on the grid.
    Welcome back. It happens. Keep writing.

  2. I’m not a writter but I love to read 🙂 I had 2 weeks off because here in germany nurseries are often closed and I’m stuck with a 5 year old on autism spektrum and 3 year old twins all day and of course my husband a forth child 😉 I do my best to learn the most awfull language for me in order to be able to earn a living some day in this land called Germany. But 2 weeks is a long break for me and I’m a bit stuck to writte a few sentences in german to complete my homework 🙂

  3. This was very funny! I’m sorry you’re not writing. But your not writing was very good. I’m finding it difficult to jump back to writing after taking some time off. I just need to go to my standing desk and channel Steve. I promise I won’t sniff.

  4. Anna, I give you credit. I could never write with my husband in the room. Mostly because he needs something “on” at all times — music or television. I need silence. BTW, you’ll get your mojo back. We’ve all gone through dry times.

  5. I’m forcing myself to write these last few weeks. I’m also finding a lot of distractions. But I’m not sure that I could ever write at a normal desk. I’m always just in my chair in the living room. If I try to move it to the table in the dining nook, forget it. I must sit in the chair, surrounded by baskets and end tables that hold my work, my inspiration and some magazines for fun.

  6. You speak to my soul. My husband started a twitter account over the weekend and is at 10k followers. I have been working my twitter for two years and am proud…was proud of my 200 followers. :/ Everyone is publishing while I’m procrastinating and feeling sorry for myself. While I’m distracted by everything. February will be my fresh start. 😉

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