Category / Relationships

March 8, 2016

Why I was a cheating cheater

Couple cheating

It’s easy enough to blame my affair on my dead dad. The Husband My husband and I met at Brown University. J was tall and golden and tanned. I imagined myself with someone dark and nebbish. He was a swimmer who wrote passionate stories and grew his own pot. My imaginary partner and I would sit to avoid our four left feet and stay out of trouble doing a crossword. My future husband would never be satisfied by such a simple grid. He created his own world snowboarding out of bounds, losing himself Read more […]

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March 4, 2016

Mommy dearest

Mommy, grandma

asked her if I could make fun of her for my blog. “Anytime,” she told me, arms stretched as wide as her smile. “I am always here to be your material.” It’s tough to make fun of someone like that. But I will give it a go.

Most of my complaints about my mother have a rich basis in history.

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January 4, 2016

Buy the Book

My ability to track time by the intensity of the light has vanished during our week on the island. Back in my king bed, contorted in the sliver allowed to me by my cat and my husband I figure it is probably time to get up. Any light in early January means I need to get moving. I wake thinking of the book. Not mine which is gathering whatever the electronic version of dust is, but the one I am reading. I had been slow to enter the pages and slower still to let the pages enter me. It has me now, it Read more […]

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October 12, 2015

Debate this

As the presidential election rounds the corner to relevance I tease out lessons from politics that we can apply to our personal relationships. Polling- Pro: In a campaign the candidate doesn’t just operate on gut instinct. Instead he/she regularly takes the pulse of the people that get him/her elected. Imagine being regularly polled on what matters to you, what you would like your partner to focus on, and what your families resources should go to for the greatest good. Real time data could Read more […]

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October 5, 2015

Crash Landing

I rushed back to the airport with my ID in hand. It is a lucky thing that I arrive at the airport for my flight before the plane has even left its prior destination. This gave me time to uber home, grab my striped pouch and head back to the airport in time to make my flight. I was tense the entire ride, but felt my breathing begin to regulate as I glided through pre-check and boarded the below ground train for terminal B. When I got to the gate I was surprised that the plane waiting was a prop Read more […]

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September 14, 2015

No Thank you

I know, I JUST wrote about thank you notes. I’m not done yet. In the past two days I have gathered more ammunition in my battle against the social norms surrounding gratitude. Saturday a hundred plus of us stood in a shallow arc looking up at the couple on the centuries old granite stairs. In this moderate sized town where most people are known to each other these two have made a larger than average mark. Their contributions include real estate developments, school board service, neighborhood Read more […]

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September 8, 2015


He finds me at my bar. Which was sort of the point of the bar. Great in concept. High design, wonderful food, cocktails even better than bug juice. Even the one called bug juice with the floating gummy worm is better than the bug juice of my early camp days. It is late at night. I have been in for inventory at eight AM and am sort of half asleep at the drink rail. I have done opening sidework for a server who was running late, hosted and schmoozed. The high has passed and my lids are lowering. I Read more […]

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July 5, 2014

Dependence Day

One of the things about a beach house is how much you see each other, and how much you see of each other. It is all family here, now that my mother and Robert have exchanged rings, but I didn’t quite expect to see so much of his feet. When I spy them in his sandals I tell myself to look away. Everyone has a right to wear sandals. But there they are totally bare on my coffee table, now sort of his coffee table and I think back an hour or so when I bent over that same spot eating my breakfast. Read more […]

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June 5, 2014


Because I am a rule bender my first public 5/5 post (inspired by Christina) is actually a 1/5. One image, five quick written thoughts. 1 & 2. Summer and child. These two are timeless. They could be from any era. Mostly I see her arm. Look at how strong it is. It has carried trays, her body in countless yoga poses, friends and now this one. She is an old friend, who knew me in my last life. I remember times when she was not so strong. I was not so strong. She prompted the first painful shot Read more […]

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April 5, 2014

Welcome Holmes

Even though we know things are temporary we don’t always behave that way. It wouldn’t help much to think about our mortality every day. An occasional visit to our life span relative to the universe can be astonishing. A reminder that petty cares will not mean much in years can be a great redirection, but most of the time we act as if whatever is happening now will happen forever. Case in point: parenting an infant. That lasts 10 months, longer I guess if you call your 22 month old “baby”, but Read more […]

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