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They don’t look too scary do they? But when you turn a corner and they are yelling SURPRISE they can make your heart stop. For just a minute. Then you might shriek and hug and shriek again.

Nicole got me to the restaurant on the ruse of going on a double date. I was ready. I had my talking points in order. But I wasn’t ready for the table of old friends. SOme of whom were from half a life ago. That was really alarming. Even after the surprise should have settled I was confused. I kept looking for the fourth from the double date that wasn’t real.

By this morning I had figured out that he wasn’t on his way, and was really happy to spend the day with those two up there.

Its really amazing how quickly 20 years can go by. Flipping through our book of lists from college it felt like we were back there, our Sunday schedule then: brunch from 1:30-3:00, studying from 3:00-5:30, Dinner from 5:30-7:15, study from 7:15-9:00,Monologues 9:30-10:30, Kirby’s party from 10:30-11:30, Jo’s from 11:30-12:00, find a fourth for cards from 12:00- 12:30 cards from 12:30-2:30 sleep from 3:00-12:30.

Fast forward 20 years. Coffee and catching up from 7:30-9:30, errands, shopping and Shelburbia tour from 9:30-11:00, brunch from 11:00-12:45, errands from 1:00-1:30, 1:30 airport, 2:00 walk, 3:00 laundry, candy crush, 5:00 dinner prep 5:45 dinner, 7:00 bedtime routines, 8:00 books, 9:00 bed.

I mean, I guess there is still brunch. And sleeping, phase shifted by 6 hours.

The silver lining is that a few years ago we might have been waking up at 5:30 or 6:00, so maybe we are going to meet our college selves back in the middle. Plus, candy crush might be a better time suck than studying…depends on the subject. Also, if we wait a few years Oliver will be a permanent fourth for cards, until I guess he leaves the house to go to college to go to brunch at 1:30…

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Anna Rosenblum Palmer is a freelance writer based in Denver, CO. She writes about sex, parenting, cat pee, bi-polar disorder and the NFL; all things inextricably intertwined with her mental health. In her free time she teaches her boys creative swear words, seeks the last missing puzzle piece and thinks deeply about how she is not exercising. Her writing can be found on Babble,, Great Moments in Parenting, Ravishly, Good Men Project, Sammiches and Psych Meds, Playpen, Crazy Good Parent, and YourTango. She also does a fair amount of navel gazing on her own blog at

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