Tag / Parenting On track

January 22, 2013

Off Balance, On Track

This week’s homework for Parenting On Track Class was to make three lists. What your kids can and will do What your kids can do and won’t What your kids can’t do Because I can never quite follow the rules I added  fourth category: What your kids can do and do rarely. (To separate the “Practicing” category from the “It’s not my preference” category.) We were instructed not to share our lists…but I will leave you to guess where “cleaning up from breakfast” fits. One area a little less touchy Read more […]

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November 15, 2011

Never gets old…

  It’s a good thing that the first Parenting on Track pitch I heard wasn’t “its based on love.” My love was never really the question…my boys’ survival to their teen years was.  A friend told me aboutVicki’s class, and when I visited the Parenting on Track website I was promised that I could stop nagging and being a sherpa. (Right on!) Arriving at class Vicki clapped as she followed us to our seats in a no holds barred display of what we do with our praise addicted kids…”oh good for Read more […]

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November 10, 2011

Happy Happy Full Life

Mistaken beliefs. Evidently a phrase that is important for Adlerian psychology. Values. A word that is important to most of us. A value may be something you will go to the mat for. A mistaken belief may take you to the mat on its own. Figuring out how beliefs and values shape our behavior takes observation and time. This is what we are working on this week for Parenting on Track Class. When I ask myself about my core parenting values I come up with words like collaboration, acceptance, curiosity, Read more […]

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October 4, 2011


So Leo, Mr. independent, has been packing imaginary and real lunches since he was 18 months old. Inspired by the “if they can walk they can work” motto of Parenting On Track, we put it to him and he thrives. When he struggles we inform, support and step back and watch. Sometimes a “hmmm” as a response to a query reveals that he knew the answer to his own question. This method does occasionally leave him floundering, but that insult is quickly replaced with a sense of his own ability. Our Read more […]

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March 23, 2011

Problem Solving with Family Meeting

OK guys… There is a reason I have a parenting expert working with me for Marble Jar.  This is a video of my family doing step three of our family meeting:Problem Solving. Family meetings inspired by Parenting On Track are where we Appreciations: each family member shares something Contributions: we re-assign what jobs we will do to keep our household running smoothly Problem Solving (you can view first hand how well that will go below) Allowence First some disclosures: I don’t seem to Read more […]

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March 7, 2011

F*)&(ck the M&Ms – the danger of rewarding our kids

don't use m& ms for rewarding your kids

What harm can come from a lollipop? Vicki Hoefle cites these experts in her response. Alfie Kohn says it succinctly in Punished by Rewards : Promising goodies to children for good behavior can never produce anything more than temporary obedience. In fact, the more we use artificial inducements to motivate people, the more they lose interest in what we’re bribing them to do. Rewards turn play into work, and work into drudgery. & Rewards and punishments are just two sides Read more […]

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January 27, 2011

Announcing Marble Jar…and its inspiration

Steve and I took our six week Parenting on Track class two years ago. Yesterday I bumped into one of my classmates, the father of two young girls, and was greeting by the familiar “still on track?” that has emerged as way to reference our shared experience.  Pretty much, I replied with a shrug, knowing that most families would be impressed by my 4 and 5 years olds’ routine of packing their own snacks, not just putting on but keeping track of their outerwear, and regular contributions to our household Read more […]

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